I believe there is greatness in every man. That each of us in our own way can become something special. With focus, direction and sheer will that we can all become and accomplish things well beyond our self-imposed limits.
What I’m talking about here is becoming the very best you can be. And by very best, I mean taking your God given potential to the limit like your life depended on it; with nonstop, never quit, obsessive commitment.
In my estimation we all fall very short of our inherent potential. Life has a habit of getting in the way doesn’t it? Plain and simple, we live in a world that is seemingly designed in some ways to confuse us and knock us off track.
But in the dead of night sometimes when all is quiet and you reflect on your life, can’t you sense your tremendous untapped potential? Don’t you feel the pain and anger for not being able to manifest whatever greatness it is that needs to come out? It has frustrated the hell out of me.
Most of us do not have our path to personal glory explicitly laid out. We’ve got to thrash about for some time before it becomes obvious. And then the challenge is to break free from our fears and completely reprogram our mindset to succeed.
Ask yourself a few of the following questions and consider my hypothesis:
- How far could you go if you were able to absolutely maximize your abilities?
- What if you completely threw off all limits and went all out for the rest of your life?
- How impressive a man would you become if you ignored your fears and went full throttle after your One Thing?
- What if you gave up alcohol and television for 10 years and read and worked out instead?
- How much more progress would you make if you gave up your shallow distractions for good (you know what they are) and replaced them with principled virtue?
- How good could you become at something if you religiously dedicated every day for the next 5 years to it?
I don’t doubt that each of you reading this knows the truth—there is greatness in you.
Let’s discuss how to go about producing that greatness.
Have a Purpose
Bottom line is that you’ve got to have a reason to get out of bed in the morning. There has to be something that will motivate you to sit up the moment the alarm goes off at 5 am; something that will have you on the edge of the bed, chomping at the bit while you gather your wits.
Ask yourself the age old question: What would you do with your life if you knew you couldn’t fail? It seems like the answer would be a primary candidate for your Purpose or One Thing, doesn’t it? Be honest with yourself. There must be some thing out there that would light a fire under you like nothing else. Can you name your One Thing?
Take the first step toward greatness and make the decision to change the Trajectory of your life. If you are tired of living an uninspired life of mediocrity, then perhaps it’s time to lay it all on the line. If obligations and others are holding you back put your mind to work and you will find a way. It’s time to put yourself first.
Open the door to possibility and ask yourself how you can get it done. There is always a way. Even if you end up upsetting those around you in the short term, imagine how much better a man you will become. In my opinion, the best a man can do for his loved ones is to pursue his Purpose in life.
Call it whatever you want—Mission/Purpose/One Thing—but figure it out and write it down. This will lay the foundation and provide you with the motivation and energy to get you started and on your way to personal greatness.
It is a difficult world we live in because doing what’s right does not guarantee superior results. And of course, sometimes doing the wrong thing can lead to “success.” But be smart about your new ambition and combine it with virtue. Make sure that your life is grounded with a core of principled ethical standards. Do what’s right for its own sake and you will never regret it.
I believe that many of the people on this earth that have achieved tremendous worldly success paint a very misleading picture to those looking in from the outside. Many have sold out their integrity or have fallen for the shallow distractions available to those with extraordinary means.
How many times have we seen the gilded fall? And for the vast majority we don’t see, I wonder how much self-inflicted pain is caused by lowly habits and poor behavior? I wonder also about the trail of poisoned relationships left behind that will inevitably occur by living without virtue.
In my opinion, natural law will favor a high standard of conduct in the long run. And that success without honor and integrity would be a hollow and temporary. It will always be a better course of action to do what’s right instead of what’s expedient.
And because of the makeup of man as it were, it will favor him to pursue greatness in the light of virtue. There is something about a clear conscience that is built for reliability and durability. Give yourself every advantage by setting high standards and boundaries for your behavior as you begin to light the fire of your pursuit.
It is going to take some courage to put yourself out there and risk failure. But then you know that don’t you? Perhaps this is the main reason as time has passed that you are mired in your current state. There is nothing wrong with being afraid. But in the long run a man needs to push past his fears to become the best he can be.
To put it bluntly, you’ve got to be willing to assume the possibility of failure. And it is going to take some courage to do that. But then, that is what defines a man sometimes isn’t it; courage and honor as they say?
On the other hand, it is the risk itself sometimes that makes something worthwhile or out of the ordinary. If all it took was putting one step in front of the other to succeed where would be the greatness in that?
My advice is to leverage the fact that it takes courage to put yourself out there. Embrace it and take pride in the fact you are willing to push yourself to become a better man. Carry that pride with you each day as you break new ground. This is a healthy pride that you will now assume for all the right reasons.
Consider yourself a player for once and not just a bystander. At least you are out there in the playing field of life taking a swing at it. Pity your old self and move on up to the High Country where you belong.
When you start from literally nothing. When all you have is an idea in your mind and it is just you versus the world. Even with all the courage of your convictions, sometimes all you’ve got to hold on to is your blind faith that it can happen.
Most likely, many will doubt you. There will also be many obstacles in your way, unexpected challenges and even some that try to actively prevent you from succeeding. This is the way of the world and you should expect it. Do not assume that because you have made an important decision that the rest of the world is going to cooperate.
But because you’ve decided to lay it all on the line to pursue something that means everything to you at this point in your life, you will press ahead regardless. All that matters is that your One Thing or new Purpose is worthy. It is worth the risk, even if you don’t truly believe at this point.
It is natural to doubt before true belief takes hold. This is where blind faith comes in. Press ahead as a matter of principle. Take it one step at a time and build it one brick at a time. Enjoy the thrill of the unknown. At least you are on the move taking life by the horns and living as a man should.
Sometimes all a man has going for him is the faith he has in himself and his pursuits. Get angry with the world if you have to. Get angry with yourself; whatever works. But hold on to that faith while you forge ahead and then start accumulating small victories. And then slowly, but surely that bare assed faith will turn into legitimate belief.
And then it is look out world because there nothing more driven than a man who believes in himself. A man with belief is a powerful force. He’s now got momentum behind him and it will be a sight to behold as he barrels straight ahead at his target.
Will and Perseverance
Sometimes even then most ardent believer can have doubts over the long term. This is when pure will and perseverance come into play. Very often this is the difference between success and failure. There are many that possess the virtue, courage, faith and belief yet eventually tire and give way. They will come out of the gate hard, but as time rolls on their ambition will wane.
Life gets in the way or the cost becomes seemingly too great. Sometimes what we thought would take 5 years turns into what looks like 10 or more. And then another setback occurs and you begin to question if it is really worth it after all. You get bitter.
It’s at this point where you’ve got to ask yourself what else you’ve got? Is your One Thing or Life Mission just not worth it anymore? Or is this the type of trick that life plays on you to get you to quit. The same type you said you’d never fall for no matter what. Or is this different? Is it really?
Consider that perhaps this is one of those points in your life that will ultimately define you. All is well when you are fresh and excited, but what about when time rolls on and you start to get tired and a little worn out?
This is when you’ve got to tell yourself you just don’t care how long, how hard and what the cost, you will not stop and you will never quit. Better to fail through effort than fail through abandonment.
This is sheer will and perseverance, gentlemen.
Embrace these qualities and make them your essence. Hold on for your life if you have to, then gather yourself and press on. For this is what will make the difference between a life of mediocrity and the courage, virtue and personal greatness that is your destiny.
All the best,