You know who you are. And you know what your Ideal Self should look like.
But life keeps getting in the way and you’re just not cutting it.
You keep letting yourself get knocked off track. Sometimes it’s by outside forces. But mostly, if we’re really being honest, it’s your own damn fault.
You realize this now; that you’re ultimately the author of your own circumstances.
But the day has finally come and you’ve made the final decision. Finally, you’ve exhausted all excuses and you’re sick of committing only half-way.
And you’re sick and tired of disappointing yourself. It’s become tiresome and it’s become unbearable.
Regardless of what happens from now on, you will take full responsibility for your life—you will go all in.
You will commit all the way.
And Burn the Bridge Behind You.
You’re going to put your life on the line. No matter what happens you’re going to keep pushing forward.
It’s finally dawned on you, there is no other answer. This is the only way to begin the glorious path to your Ultimate Self.
And you’ve got to get there because you’re wasting your life, your potential and it’s not right.
You’ve pretty much seen it all by this point. There’s been family issues, a crash and burn love life, personal weaknesses, shallow distractions, failures, laziness, betrayals and more. Some of this is from others and some of it is from you.
But for some reason you just don’t care anymore about any of it; past, present or future. All that matters is that you will pursue Your Life’s Destiny and become the very best you can be.
Everything that happens to you will now pass through this prism. Pursuing Excellence and Virtue is the only answer. Everything else is just a meaningless diversion.
You will use it all, everything that comes at you, as a means to an end.
The starting point is right now, this very instant; there is to be no delay. And because you’ve made an irreversible decision, you will take the Long View.
Once the decision is made and you know it’s non-negotiable, there’s a certain comfort and confidence in the Long View.
After all, you’ve burned the bridge behind you so there’s no turning back. You might as well settle in.
You might as well persevere. You will persevere.
What other choice do you have? You know you can become who you need to be. And when you get right down to it, the only thing that’s been missing is the guts and perseverance.
As we said at the beginning of this essay—you know who you are. You know what you’re capable of. And you’ve got a sneaking suspicion there is an untapped level or two beyond what you can currently see. It will be an exhilarating ride to test yourself and find out.
If you just never quit, there’s no way you can fail.
It might not happen as quickly as you want. And everything might not work out exactly as you want it to. But there’s no way you can fail to become the man you want to be, if you just never stop.
Action is now the answer. You will take action and persevere. If necessary, you will fail your way forward. Even if you do make some mistakes and crash, at least you’ve got the guts to pursue your Destiny. To hell with what anyone else thinks. You’re now your own man.
The bottom line is that you will get out there every day and get after it. It’s not complicated. Like most of life, you will work the fundamentals; these same fundamentals that you’ve ignored in the past. You will work them until they become a reflex, until they become instinct.
Patience and repetition are the key—practice, practice, practice. You will practice and work until you’re sick of it and beyond; until everything you do transforms into excellence; until what you do becomes part of the natural order.
And do you know any else? You’re going to start acting as if. You’re going to carry yourself as if you’re already there. You will walk the walk and make yourself a believer. After all, it’s only a matter of time anyway. We’ve already discussed that you won’t be denied. And you are who you believe yourself to be—so you might as well start right now.
This is not about faking it. It’s about embodying the characteristics, attitudes, confidence and posture of your Ideal Self right now. If you become these things, as simple as it sounds, you are these things.
If you conduct yourself with Virtue, take a positive mindset, remain confident and stand tall, you are all of these things. Combine all of this with Right Actions each day and you will create a positive feedback loop—a loop that will lead to Personal Greatness.
Of course, you’re aware there will be roadblocks. Just because you’ve made a life changing decision, doesn’t mean the rest of the world will cooperate. Circumstances and people will align and conspire to slow you down and even try to stop you. After all, why should you be allowed get your way?
But this time it will be different. To put it bluntly, you’re not fucking around. There’s no turning back and you’ve put your life on the line. These people and these difficulties have no idea who they’re dealing with.
You will maintain your composure, but you will not stop. You’ll go around, go over, go through, go under; whatever it takes. You’ll fight a war of attrition or take a step back and resupply, reevaluate and go after it again.
And even if some of those people and difficulties are you, you’ll get right back up and back at it. You’ll keep dialing it in until you get it right. No man is perfect, but he can always get better. And get better you will.
Yes, you will get better, smarter and you will evolve. It’s become plainly obvious to you by this point that the only constant in life is change—and the pace of change is quickening.
So you have no choice then. You will become a Dynamic Man and adapt and continue to refine yourself.
You will pare away to reveal the masterpiece that is your origin.
It is Perseverance combined with Dynamism that will lead to the mastery and genius that lies within. You will transform yourself through effort, study, adaptation and perseverance.
And once you get some momentum and get a sense of what’s possible, life will indeed become your field of dreams.
A man who digs as deep as he possibly can into his core and then works to manifest all that he can possibly be, will get a view into his creation; and thus a view into a higher realm.
There is no better way to live, no better way to serve those around you and no better way to justify your life.
Burn the Damn Bridge Behind You.
All the best,