There is nothing more unattractive to a woman than a needy man. If your posture towards your mate is one of pursuit and appeasement, or if you’ve put her up on a pedestal and let her set the agenda for your lives, then prepare yourself for the eventual fall.
Prepare yourself for a loss of respect, a lack of interest and the dull and boring life of a beta male. Get used to being an annoyance and a bother. Scorn, ridicule and conflict will eventually rule the day. This is simply the expected consequence, prescribed by millennia of natural selection.
Bare minimum, you’ll end up nothing more than a cohabitant and the glory days of old in your relationship will become a distant memory. The fire will be gone and some of the luster that used to make life worth living as a man will be lost for ever more.
This is no way to live. It is inconsistent with the natural order and a life of which you do not have to accept.
It’s Your Fault
But let me be clear here: it is your fault. As tempting as it is, do not blame your woman. You’ve slacked off and let yourself get soft. You’ve listened to what your woman says, rather than learn from what she does. The female imperative that rules western society, now rules your relationship. And you let it happen.
You aren’t the first man to fall as such and you won’t be the last. As the true romantics, when we as men commit to a woman it is with honor and loyalty. The decision is made and it is assumed to be permanent and binding. She has nothing more to prove to you. It will be love, honor and affection from now until your last day.
And as it turns out, your woman also made the same decision as you did. In her mind you were all set as well.
Yes indeed, she was all set until at some point when you started to take your foot off the gas. All set until life and circumstances became a little more difficult and you were not the tip of the spear. All set until she began to notice other men, who were harder and still brimming with ambition and fire.
I’m sorry, but this is just the way it is. This is simply a woman’s evolutionary nature. Even in the modern day, her hindbrain remains programmed for survival and that my friend places the burden of performance on you.
Craft Your Life Anew
So if you find yourself on the wrong end of a relationship gone sour, you’ve got a decision to make. You can take the easy path and continue to coast from here. Or you can reclaim your Life’s Destiny and get back to living life the way it was meant to be. And as a side benefit, bring your woman back into the fold simmering in female delight.
The phrase side benefit is key here gentlemen, because as I always say you will now put yourself first. After all, the previous social construct between you and your woman has failed miserably. It is an oddity, but the opposite of what you think will occur, when you get yourself way out in front of your woman. It will change the dynamic in your favor and you will both be the better for it.
Craft your Life Mission anew, create your Life Vision, find your One Thing and then make a run the High Country where you belong. Commit to never stop and never quit. Harden yourself as a man should. And along the way make it your standard posture to remain Outcome Independent regarding your woman’s affections.
Keep it to yourself, but go hardcore and make up your mind you will eventually walk away if she doesn’t come around. Set your mind straight here. Know it to be as so without a doubt that you will not settle for a woman devoid of passion and affection.
And the same goes for your daily interactions. Remain affectionate, but always have a superior agenda. Always remain in pursuit of your very best. Allow your woman to become a part of your Mission, but do not allow her to become your Mission.
A man of Virtue, ambition and good spirit has no time for an uninterested woman. The goal here is never to have to walk out the door, but if you are indeed willing to start over it will free your spirit and eventually she will come to know it.
As you press ahead in unrelenting fashion each day, week after week, month after month and year after year, at some point along the way she will come to intuitively understand a new reality. This new reality is that you are the prize in the relationship. Although committed, you can ultimately choose to take it or leave it. You are a man of action and strong character. And you do have options.
You will know it, she will know it and she will know you know she knows it.
This will be good.
She will also become keenly aware that other women have begun taking an interest in you. This is called Preselection. And this will also be good.
The female hindbrain is highly tuned to social validation. When she sees the unspoken social cues of attraction from other women it will become a very satisfying confirmation of her superior choice that was you. And as the female psychology of desire is designed by nature, this will add fuel to the fire.
Remember you cannot negotiate this desire; it can only be earned through action, character and validation.
Be of good intentions, but put yourself out there where she can see how others react to you as a man brimming with energy and verve. Let her see with her own eyes the respect you get from other men and the interesting smiles you get from other women. And be sure she becomes aware of each time people apologize to you as they step aside and get out of your way.
It will make a tremendous impact on your profile in her mind when other grown men begin to say “I’m sorry” and step aside when you meet at a doorway. And don’t kid yourself, this will happen one day.
Other men can sense a man of seriousness and purpose; a man who as hardened himself and owns his shit. They will also respect and admire him. This will be a jaw dropper for your woman and further validate your very appealing alpha male status in her mind.
Dread and Magic
As your woman begins to see with her own eyes your transformation into twice and then three times the man you were, another reality will begin to creep into her consciousness. The cold hard truth that she could actually be replaced will enter her mind. It will become obvious to her that many other very attractive female competitors would be very interested in acquiring your affections. This is what we call Dread.
So she now has something very valuable to lose. And this valuable something will be you.
One again: she will know it, you will know it and she will know you know she knows it.
You will now have a very interesting dynamic and tension in your relationship. The magic will be back with a vengeance. Yes sir, you will take pleasure as you enjoy the benefits of your woman working to please you every day. The fact that you’ve put yourself way out in front of your woman will be worth every ounce of effort.
And the best part about all of this is you will both be happier. The energy and excitement of old will be back. You will see it in her eyes, admire it in her preening and feel it in the air.
So do yourself a small favor and accept your Life’s Destiny to become the very best you can be.
Make it your primary purpose each day.
And create a little worry in her mind.
All the best,