If you are not living your life as you should, you wouldn’t be the first man to veer off course. It’s easy to get sidetracked with the demands of family, work and the many difficulties that will come your way. Sometimes it’s easier to just go with the flow and take the easy path.
You might even find yourself one day with an existence immersed in shallow distractions as a means of hiding from yourself. Yes, hiding from yourself. We’ve all been guilty of it at some point. There is no bigger disappointment than letting yourself down to the point where you’ve become less than you had hoped for. So you end up hiding from yourself, as pathetic and weak as that sounds.
You end up using shallow distractions or worse as a means of escape, an escape from the truth; a truth that hurts. Activities or actions from the benign to the destructive are used to cover up for betraying who you should really be; for finding yourself leading your life in the wrong direction. And for wasting all the potential and high hopes you had for your future.
Deep down you know your true nature and your true ideal. And if you are not living up to that ideal there will be a price to pay. You will not be happy and you will not like who you have become.
But at some point enough becomes enough. At some point you’ve got to put a stop to it. One morning you will wake up and be sick of yourself. You will not enjoy your own company and you will not be proud of who you have become. And you will know you have tarnished your Soul to an extent.
It’s at this point you will become angry. Good.
Get angry at yourself and use that anger to fuel the courage you will need to get back on track with your true nature, your true ideal. Cross over to what you know is right and burn the bridge behind you. Set it on fire and never look back. Pursue the glory that is yours to be had by becoming the very best you can be.
Be true to your nature and get in line with what is right. Deep down you know what that is. Commit to change course and to never stop and never quit. This is something you will never regret.
And then one day as you walk around like hardened steel, cutting through your life with a razor sharp edge, it will be entertaining just to be you—you will enjoy your own company.
Stop Doing Things That Are Wrong
Just as your body wants heal itself from injury, so your soul and core character wants to heal itself as well. And if you are not pursuing your very best, then you need to heal yourself and get better—get better, feel better, live better.
The first step is to stop doing things that are wrong. And the second step is to stop doing things that make you weak. Be honest with yourself here.
Virtue is the answer for the former and Discipline the answer for the latter.
Run towards Virtue and embrace Discipline. Do these two things like your life depended on it. And as a consequence you will stop doing things are wrong and stop doing things that make you weak.
Better to run towards something positive than away from something negative as a means of focus. De-emphasize the negative and accentuate the positive. It just works better. It’s hard to forget something you’re always trying to avoid. Avoidance keeps the negative fresh in your mind.
Instead, displace wrong and weak with Virtue and Discipline. Flip the script with the best there is. Acquire the courage to pursue Virtue and develop the heart of a lion through Discipline. Grow up and become a man in the truest sense.
If this was all you did each day for the rest of your life, embody Virtue and Discipline in all that you do, untold opportunity and possibility will eventually manifest themselves as if guided by hand.
Doing wrong and being weak will hold you back. And the longer you continue the greater the price you will have to pay. Don’t try and fool yourself. Cut out both of these from your life and you will be set free. You will unburden yourself and it will place you in an elegant congruence with the natural order.
Right out of the gate, give yourself the best chance. Stop doing what you know you should stop doing. And then turn around and head full throttle in the other direction towards what is right. It’s that simple.
Weather the resistance and ride it out purely on principle.
Until one day when it becomes self-evident.
It’s good to be you.
Imagine where you would end up if you did nothing but take Right Action for the rest of your life. If, for whatever reason, you decided you were going to do everything you needed to do each and every day. And even if you couldn’t get it all done the day before, you would pick right up and continue on in the next.
For most of us to excel, the actions to be taken each day are usually pretty straightforward. The key is consistent application with an indomitable spirit. It’s all the little things, being taken care of over time with care and precision of thought, which will eventually compound into something special.
Think of it this way: you need to keep the heat on to get the kernels in your life to pop. Putting the heat on and taking it away over and over again just won’t lead to the critical energy necessary to break through to the next level. You’ve got to apply constant pressure to your circumstances to start pulling away.
Take on the persona that you will outwork and outlast them all if you have to. Make up an imaginary adversary and commit to a war of attrition. Most of the time you don’t even need to be that good. You just need to be the last man standing.
Get up earlier, eat smarter, work all day long, do what you say you will do, get control over your mindset, exercise, read, learn from others, be courteous, conduct your self as a professional and carry yourself with energy and verve.
Apply your best to everything you do, day in and day out—from mowing your lawn, to your projects at work and to your own self-Improvement. Anything worth doing is worth doing well as they say.
Consider each day an investment in the natural order; the natural order you are getting into alignment with and which will begin to turn in your favor. See yourself as a man cutting through each day with a sharper, stronger, gleaming edge; as a man of tempered steel who is hardened and becomes more powerful each new day through nothing but Right Action.
Follow this path and it will eventually become automatic to always do everything right. Your good habits will act as a trigger and put you in an active state right out of the gate each morning. You won’t even have to think about it.
Right Action will become your essence and it will amaze you what you can accomplish each day.
There is no better way for a man to live and no better way for a man to enjoy himself.
Right now as you are reading these words make the decision to exercise your free will.
Choose to live deliberately.
No matter what your circumstances, it is never too late to take full control. Turn away from what is wrong and choose instead to embody what is right. Avoid weakness and pursue strength. Harden yourself with Virtue.
Make it a point to always take Right Action and you can’t go wrong. Even through extreme duress and difficult circumstances there is no better answer. If you are currently in a tough spot, engage in Righteous Defiance as I call it.
Do everything right for its own sake. Even if things don’t work out as you’d hoped, at least you can know you went down swinging with honor and good character.
Keep up the chase regardless. At some point, living based on Right Action as a matter of principle becomes its own reward. At some point there is nothing more meaningful.
Dare the Creator, dare the universe and dare all that is good to raise an eyebrow and take note. Let your indomitable spirit lead the way forward. Ignore the time, the effort and the cost and eventually it will begin to happen.
Eventually you will begin to bend reality in your favor. And when it begins to dawn on you this is happening, you will become imbued with an energy and joy unlike nothing you’ve experienced before.
You will get a taste of what is right, you will want more of it and you will enjoy your own company.
All the best,