There is something to be said for some of the finer pleasures of life during our time here on earth.
Virtue, destiny and accomplishment will create purpose and meaning; without them you will lead a shallow existence. And your Mission must always come first. But a man should always make time for enjoyment during his pursuits—it’s the little subtleties purposely crafted into each day that will ease you through your ambitions.
God created joy for a reason. And He also created the polarity between the sexes for a reason.
Put yourself in congruence with the natural order of things and make it a priority to enjoy this polarity.
Enjoy Your Woman.
You will harden yourself in both mind and body as you pursue Your Life’s Destiny to become the very best you can be. And as you do so the contrast between you and your woman will grow. Nature will take its course and the energy and positive tension between the both of you will transform and become a source of delight.
As spirited and independent as your woman might be, she is not the same as you. Her Soul and intrinsic value as a human being are as incalculable as yours. But as a woman in this life she is different.
Take note of these differences and enjoy them. This is the way it is supposed to be.
There is an inherent softness to a woman that is innately attractive; from her lips, to her arms and shoulders, to the subtleties of her womanly figure. Surely, there is not much more on this great earth that is more pleasing to the eye and to a man’s primal nature.
Take some time each day to appreciate the physical aspects of your woman. Let her know of her beauty. Tell her explicitly she is beautiful. She needs to know this, it will be inherently satisfying to her. Kiss her without reserve, constantly. Touch and embrace her passionately. Enjoy the softness of her being.
And the same goes for her mental and emotional states. Especially learn to appreciate these differences. A woman’s evolutionary survival has bread certain characteristics into her nature; characteristics that will leave you frustrated if misunderstood or ignored. But they can also make life very interesting if leveraged and turned in the right way.
To put it simply, your woman will need to test you. Some of these tests will be subtle. And some of them not subtle, as you are no doubt aware. She must be confident that you are worthy and will remain worthy; and so she should. This is simply an evolutionary adaptation. For virtually all of human history a woman and her offspring’s literal survival depended on the vitality and viability of her man.
Thus, even in today’s world when a woman can live as independently as she wants, there is still the reality of hard coded programming from which there is no escape. Consider her still, even as a modern woman, a little bit wild in a sense. This is good, is it not?
If you’re unaware and unprepared in this regard, it can lead to the worst of outcomes. Without a doubt, if you don’t measure up, eventually nature will take its course and she will find a better mate. Or at bare minimum the magic will disappear and it will all go stale. Sound familiar?
But since you are now aware of your woman’s evolutionary programming, you will embrace and enjoy her inherent nature. After all, there has to be some challenge. There has to be some excitement. And a little bit of wildness, tension and taming in this respect seems like it will fit the bill.
Consider it a challenge from now on to handle these fitness tests as well as her emotional ups and downs, with mastery and ease. Let them remind you about your necessary role in the relationship and use them as a tool to keep you at your best. Just smile and enjoy, it’s all part and parcel of what makes her who she is.
Tip of the Spear
Become the shield and tip of the spear in your household and it will all come together. Clear a path for your woman. Make her life as easy as possible by being proactive and through responsible action. And keep breaking new ground. Never stop getting better.
You will do these things as part of your Mission, but they will also serve another purpose. She will see with her own eyes that you are a dynamic man and that you are indeed more than worthy. And as you Get Way Out in Front of Your Woman, she will quickly learn there is no way she can keep up.
When this happens it will turn the key. It will come to her attention that she chose very well; that you are a standout among men. You’ll begin to notice her admiring eyes, staring and smiling at you. There will be feminine preening and a shift in attitude will occur. All of this will put her on her toes. You will become the prize and she will gladly and deliberately work to keep you happy.
Enjoy your woman in this emotional state. It is as nature intended. There will be congruence in your interactions and it will elevate your relationship—it will become something special. She will admire you as a woman should and won’t be ashamed to admit it.
Enjoy. There isn’t anything much better than basking in the admiration of the woman you love.
As a consequence of this admiration, you will draw her into your Frame. You will be setting the Vision, tone and direction for your lives. And as you remain out front carving the path for your household she will innately take a keen interest. There is nothing more attractive to a woman than a man with ambition and direction; and a man who takes action.
Her interest and support in your endeavors will be very satisfying. Your motivation will always remain in accordance with your Mission, but it will indeed be pleasurable to have her enthusiastically along for the ride. Things will be in sync and you will both know it. It will be good to be in agreement and see the delight in her eyes.
But make sure to keep the throttle down and never complain or show weakness in front of your woman. Ignore the feminine imperative storyline about sharing your feelings and being vulnerable; even if she asks you to. There’s nothing wrong with honest communication. But keep your complaints and insecurities to yourself. Share them with a brother or your dog if you have to, but not your woman.
Her Point of View
Think about it from her point of view. Complaining and weakness will lower your profile as a provider and protector, regardless of what she says she wants. And it will destroy your Frame as the shield and tip of the spear. She needs to know without a doubt that you will stand tall, especially during periods of difficulty.
Always hold yourself together and maintain Frame, especially when things get difficult. As rough as it might be sometimes, it will eventually pass. Most everything does. So you might as well hold the line, employ Willing Acceptance and then take Right Action as best you can. There is no better way.
She will be watching you; watching and evaluating. Even if you’re less than perfect, if you keep your cool as a hardened man and do the best you can, it will pay dividends. She will see you fighting the good fight with dignity and honor—standing tall as a man should.
This is a role she will get used to and appreciate. And as a consequence she will begin to defer to you more and more. You will find she is very interested in your opinion and will look to you more often for decisions both big and small. And this too will be good.
Courtesy and Consideration
And along the way in both good times in bad you will elevate your game even further. You will Enjoy Your Woman through courtesy and consideration. Go all out here and become the embodiment of class and chivalry. Make it an art form and be consistent.
Start with basics. Open all doors for your woman and let her pass through ahead of you. Open the door for her entering and exiting your vehicle. Pull her chair out and seat her at the table. And as a consequence you will sit down at your meals only after she has been seated. Thank and complement her after every meal for her efforts and skills.
As you pursue your agenda each day, always take your woman’s sensibilities and needs into consideration. Ask for her opinion, inquire about her day and be proactive in looking out for her. And if she’s right about something, complement her on being so. Be thoughtful and considerate. Make sure it is very clear that you value her beyond measure.
Enjoy this interplay of courtesy and consideration. Distinguish yourself in both private and in public. She will appreciate the sincerity when it’s just the both of you and bask in the show in front of others.
Caring for your woman in this explicit manner will add a measure of elegance and sophistication to your relationship. It will raise your profile in her mind and she will appreciate you for it. It is indeed a great feeling each day to engage in this type of courtship. And as she reciprocates, it will revive some of the freshness as it was when you first met.
Never assume you’ve got her locked in. Keep some things to yourself and keep her guessing. A woman who thinks she knows everything there is to know about a man will wane in her desire. And yet the opposite will occur if you let her imagination stir a little and work its magic about your direction and potential. This is a state of mind similar as to when you first met and has certain benefits as I’m sure you recall.
Let her know of your affection and interest, but remain Outcome Independent to any particular instance. After all, a man of Vision, ambition and action has no time for a woman without passion. He has better things to do and ultimately many options; options that will multiply over time as he continues to develop and harden himself. She will see this with her own eyes and the issue will solve itself.
Tease her lovingly, be playful and keep her on her toes. And thrill her with your optimism and constant good humor. She will learn to depend on it as a respite from the world and you’ll find her prodding you on for her own benefit. This too will be a good feeling; to know you’ve become the center of your woman’s world where she looks up to and depends on you.
You’ll know you’ve reached the summit one day, through her admiring eyes.
More often than not you will feel them on you, soaking it all in. Your essence as a man will be innately satisfying to her. You will know it, she will know it and she will know you know she knows it.
But then the opposite will also be true. Her feminine essence will also be in play in the same regard.
There will be an understanding and an interplay between the both of you each day.
Electricity will fill the air. There will be a primal tension and sweet energy that pervades your relationship.
And it will indeed be a pleasure as you admire her in return as she preens and works subtly to attract your admiring eyes as well.
All the best,