Much of what passes for success these days is based on the glorification of the superficial. It seems like all that matters to many is the appearance of success, regardless of the underlying basis.
Our lives are flooded by a pervasive media extolling the virtues of possession and celebrity adulation.
Radio, television, movies and the digital world are constantly bombarding us with the glamor and high life of young, beautiful and famous people through the use of products and services. Celebrity and fame are the end all and be all. They are the new standard for becoming royalty in our society.
It is a seductive web that is woven by professionals who are very good at their craft. This is an industry designed to separate you from your money through the purchase these goods and services. They are selling status, validation and pride.
Yes indeed, it is an easy trap to fall into for many. We are programmed from our youngest days in front of the varied forms of modern media to view consumption and possession as the ultimate measure of success. And the only barrier is but a monetary price attached to each new desire for superficial gratification and display.
After a while, however, a man will tire of this material and posture based existence. It is cheap, shallow and fleeting. He will realize this one day and decide that he needs more from life.
Experience will inform him that what matters most are those things that are largely unseen and intrinsic in nature. He will experience a need to Excel Below the Surface and develop himself at a deeper level.
Quality of Outcome
As a man matures and begins to enjoy himself through excellence in process, he will begin to pursue a quality of outcome in all he does as well.
Gone are the days when projects or exciting ideas were started and then left to die on the vine. Or these same things were completed without refinement just to be brushed aside and so as to move on to the next shallow distraction of the moment.
Now it is different.
At a certain point a man will tire of mediocrity. One day it will hit hard that time is passing him by and he really has nothing of significance to show for it. The ambition that once drove him to excel has given way to the easy path. Life has lost its luster and there is a hunger for inspiration.
Yes indeed, there is once again a thirst for accomplishment and a high quality of outcome. It is the innate nature of a man of character to accomplish things and for the resulting output to be of refinement and excellence.
This is a desire that is worthy and will provide many benefits even if it is pursued for its own sake. Quality is always good. If a man carries himself at his highest level every day and works to produce superior results, then he is living a worthy life.
Make it a habit to finish things that you start. Avoid multitasking and drill down to finish things properly; even those projects, chores or routines that will remain unseen and unappreciated by others.
Work to please yourself. Do things right and finish them to the best of your ability. Make it a habit and allow it to pervade your life. Become a man of quality and accomplishment, both over the short term and long term.
Focus and enjoy quality of outcome and raise the level of your game.
For there will never be any regret for doing and finishing things properly.
Do this and you will distinguish yourself every day.
Craft Your Mindset
The Creator has provided you with three brains: reptilian, mammalian and neocortex. Each of these in succession is wrapped around the other and provides successively higher levels of cognitive function. It is the neocortex that contains what we traditionally consider our conscious mind.
Each of the three brains will respond to higher levels of conscious will if it is applied— particularly the mammalian (emotion and memory) and neocortex (reasoning, language, logic, forward planning) brains.
You are not your mind, you are your soul. Become the controlling witness to your mind and teach it what it needs to learn.
Speak to yourself through affirmation statements about where you need to improve. Reprogram your mind through the righteous will of your soul by telling yourself what you need to hear. Continue day after day, month after month and year after year.
Combine these statements with action and you will change the chemical and physical makeup of your brain over time.
Read everything you can get your hands on that interests you. Get smarter and develop your intellectual and emotional intelligence. Find a reason to write about the things that matter to you as well. Work them out in a journal, diary or blog. Turn your words into reality.
Recognize when your mind is running off on its own and put a stop to it. As a witness to your mind you will interdict and replace the maladaptive with the adaptive.
You will apply all that you learn to retrain your mind for a higher level of function. Each day’s challenges will be handled with composure, confidence and ease. The emotional loss of control and break downs of the past will become a distant memory. You will become the master of your emotional state.
Applying this discipline to your mind in the areas of your profession will take you beyond an intellectual and emotional intelligence to an intuitive one. This is where the real magic will occur.
These are the areas where mastery and the metaphysical come in to play; where to a certain extent reality will bend to your will.
This is indeed excelling below the surface.
Be patient and play the long game.
Make a conscious decision to improve your mindset.
Live life up in the High Country and enjoy being the very best you can be.
As you craft your life day in and day out, work to please yourself. Stop looking to others for approval and put yourself first in line. It is by far the healthiest way to live, for a man’s best lies within himself and only he can ultimately bring this to fruition.
The reason that many men look to others for approval and validation is they are essentially wandering aimlessly through their lives. Even though they may be a good husband, father, son or employee, there is no underlying purpose driving them beyond the usual demands of daily existence.
There is nothing for him to tear after each day.
If a man has no overriding purpose to his life, then he will certainly look outward for validation. As good as it may feel, this is not a long term formula for success. For a man is thus dependent on others for his self-worth.
This is an unreliable and sometimes dangerous path to follow. What will drive a man at this point are those who he associates with rather than his core values. And without a set of core values and principles a man can easily be led astray seeking approval.
Even if he is surrounded by good people, it is still not wise to make pleasing them his primary purpose in life. In the long run a man’s destiny must be self-authored. For if it is not there will eventually be a price to pay.
The answer then is to find your purpose.
Create a Life Mission. Make this Mission the umbrella for everything you do. It should not be an achievable or measurable goal but a statement declaring a way of life. It will be you existing and living life at your best.
Make yourself proud.
Begin each day with your Life Mission in mind and work to meet your new standard. At the end of each day, reflect and smile as you appreciate the pursuit of your very best.
Next on the agenda for direction, focus and self-validation is a Life Vision. This is the list of achievable and concrete goals that will create the excitement and drive to launch you out of bed each day.
Create a mix of short, medium and long term goals. Write them down, print them out and post them right next to your Life Mission. Review them each morning and evening to keep them at the fore of your consciousness.
And from this Life Vision select your One Thing.
Make this goal the primary focus of your life.
It’s your choice here. It can be one of the short term items on your list that you’d like to knock off, or perhaps the transformational end all be all goal you have listed on your Life Vision.
Structure your life based on these core beliefs and goals and work at them full throttle to please yourself. Naturally you will have created your Life Mission/Life Vision/One Thing to be consistent with what is truly important, meaningful and righteous within your life.
Living each day in this fashion will place self-validation as your primary motivator. And this my friend, is the best way for a man to live. It will eliminate the discord and unreliability of trying to please others while simultaneously keeping you in harmony with your core principles and desires.
Create an exciting plan for your life. Make it a plan that is consistent with what you know will be you at your very best. And then enjoy each day pleasing you.
Living life as such will build an incredible momentum.
You will become unstoppable and dare I say, perhaps even a Force of Nature.
A Thing of Beauty
Make a quiet and unbreakable promise to yourself.
No matter your past or present state, vow to make your life a Thing of Beauty from here on in.
In the end you want to be able to look back and smile; a broad smile of deep and enduring satisfaction. It will be a smile that comes from living your life at its maximum potential by relentlessly pursuing your very best.
You want to be able to experience the kind of satisfaction that comes from laying it all on the line and giving it all you had. Despite all the ups and downs that occur in a man’s life, you want to know you handled it all with composure and determination.
You took control and crafted your life like a work of art, like the way it is supposed to be:
One day you made a decision. There was no fanfare, no big announcement. It was just DONE.
You were tired of being tired. Fed up with being uninspired and had your fill of mediocrity and going along just to get along.
At some point a man wears on himself as he lets his potential wane. It dawns on him that he is approaching a crossroads. And then something occurs one day that flips a switch. He will no longer be afraid, stop wasting away and no longer hold back from his true potential.
So you pressed the pause button on your life and decided to dig deep—and you found your purpose.
You decided to humble yourself and begin to develop your inherent potential from the inside out. You would begin to excel below the surface.
Every day you would pare away at your character through discipline, ethics, excellence, quality, mindset and self-validation.
You would not stop and you would never quit.
Yes indeed, it was a glorious ride in the end because you kept your quiet promise and made your life a Thing of Beauty.
All the best,