Have a look at yourself in the mirror. If the physique you see reflecting back at you is soft and a shadow of your former self, then it’s time to make a hard right turn.
Consider the excess weight and lack of conditioning an indicator of your decline and a harbinger for the future. If you’ve let yourself go and the pounds are adding up, where else in your life is a lack of focus and self-control got you headed in the wrong direction?
Even if you’re out there working hard every day, do you really have it dialed in like you should? Are you in hardcore pursuit of becoming the very best you can be? Or are you just holding on and allowing the circumstances and pressures of modern life to slowly add up and overwhelm your true potential?
Think for a moment about what your woman sees. Gone is the vibrant and shredded stud full of exciting potential that she fell for. You are now just another typical man doing his best. Another man making the beer companies and the pizza store richer; watching other men compete for glory, all the while getting fatter and further in debt.
Don’t kid yourself, when she is gossiping with her female friends this is indeed what she will say. There will be disappointment and she will talk you down; one way or another it will come out and it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. When it’s quiet and she’s all alone and she’s tired and fed up, you and your downward trajectory will become front and center.
And then there you will have it. The exhilarating and electric relationship you once had will be gone. She will now point to you for all her disappointment even as you “do your best” each day. Her genetic evolutionary programming will make it so. Your good intentions, faithfulness and love will count for next to nothing.
Hypergamy will rule the day and not in your favor. Hypergamy just doesn’t care.
And can you blame her?
Take immediate control and make the change you know you need to make—harden yourself. Harden yourself until you become like cold steel, physically and mentally.
Turn the corner and come out of the gate hard. Get your edge back. Get back to your physical prime, six pack and all. There is no excuse not to do so. You do have 100 percent control over what you put in your mouth. Acquire the discipline and get lean.
You don’t need to become a body builder, a hulking power lifter or a competitive athlete. But there is no excuse not to get back to your prime weight, add some muscle mass and develop some physical explosiveness.
Deny yourself, cut the weight necessary and make the time to get fit. This will be your foundation and send a cold hard explicit signal to your woman. You’re back with a vengeance and she’d better get ready to follow. The man she once met that gave her the tingles is on the move again and this is only the beginning.
So the first step then is to stop stuffing your face and start working out. Get yourself fit and harden your physical frame. It’s not very complicated. All you will be doing is employing a man’s discipline to bring back and harden your physique. Pare away and get the job done. In six months you can be a new man.
Do not accept any less from yourself. And do not underestimate the impact. Your woman will take notice and it will provide you with tremendous psychological momentum.
In immediate parallel with this hardcore decision, you will also employ Max Panzer Iron Rule #1: you will Stop Complaining.
Nothing will make you look weaker and less attractive than complaining to your woman. Even if you walk around as the perfect physical specimen, complaining about work, bad luck, other people or your woman herself will kill your persona. It doesn’t matter how unfair your life circumstances or how badly your woman treats you, whining about it will do you no good.
Take Iron Rule #1 to heart. Never complain to your woman again.
Take a step back and once again think about it from her position. She’s looking for a man who will act as the tip of the spear and unbreakable shield for her and her children. At the most primal level of your relationship this is what she wants and this is what she needs. And then here you are each day complaining about this and complaining about that.
What she sees then is weakness. And weakness is a desire killer my friend. Your woman, like all women, is genetically programmed to avoid weakness in men. She is the product of millions of years of natural selection where women who chose to mate with weak men did not survive. So if your woman sees you as weak, then the magic will disappear.
This is one of the easiest steps you can take to raise your profile in your woman’s mind and lay the proper foundation for a new mindset along the way. Tie the words complaining and weakness together. Make them one and the same, make them synonyms. Leverage the effect weakness will have on your woman as a red flag. And then put a stop to it.
The same goes for all other displays of weakness in your character. Put a stop to it all.
Never let your woman see another day of poor attitude or poor morale—not one more day. No more discussing your fears and worries. No more neediness. No more pathetic inebriation. No more excess when it comes to food and drink or any other possible vice.
Instead let her see the opposite weakness.
Carry yourself with energy and verve. Keep your worries and fears to yourself. Acquire the demeanor of a Stoic. Demonstrate discipline and propriety when it comes to food and drink. Get up early and get shit done. Read like your life depended on it.
Do it all. Harden yourself and let her see with her own eyes the fruits of your labors; day after day, week after week, month after month and year after year. And as I always say, cut through each day with a vengeance. Do it all for your own benefit, but then take note and enjoy the benefits of your flourishing profile.
All of this will set you on a path to forever breaking new ground. You will become like a rushing current rather than the stagnant pond of old. Keep her guessing, stimulate her imagination and let her become proud of her man and his potential again.
Continuously get better and evolve. Become dynamic and make it a way of life. It will be exhilarating on its own, but will also light a fire in your woman. Yes indeed, you will stoke that fire and then stoke it some more.
From here on and for ever more—harden yourself.
Harden yourself and you will see it in her eyes.
All the best,