As much as you would like to be able to take your foot off the gas and just relax, the reality of your woman’s hypergamy makes it unwise to do so. If you’ve got a head of steam behind you it will be somewhat easier since all it will take is some tweaking here and there to maintain your momentum, but you can never really take your foot off the accelerator. The way I look at it, this is a good thing. There will always be an incentive to keep moving. For me it’s a way of life. Thus hypergamy is another form of fuel for the fire. I embrace it as a challenge. After all, reality is what it is. I might as well accept it and prosper.
The best thing about a woman’s hypergamic nature, however, is that it is the key to maintaining the magic between the two of you. Once you swallow the Red Pill and become aware of your woman’s hard coded hind brain and what makes it tick, many things will become very clear to you. You will realize why in so many days past, despite behaving as societal norms taught you to do, you kept running up against the wall. There you were doing everything she said she wanted you to do and yet you were the enemy in your own home in some respects. How could this be? How bloody frustrating was that?
As it turns out, you now know you were only fulfilling one side of the coin of your relationship dynamic. It is a good thing to be faithful, loving and hard working. But perhaps you took it a little too far by putting your woman first in your life as you were taught to do; faithfully following the pervasive feminine imperative model for relationships to your own detriment and to her detriment as well. After all, she wasn’t happy either. It is indeed frustrating to look back and know that despite your best intentions, blood, sweat and killer effort, that it wasn’t enough.
But what is in the past is in the past gentlemen. Put it behind you. The best way to move forward is with a Stoic attitude. Live your life in the present moment, maintain an objective perception regarding your woman’s hypergamy and then persevere with your new Red Pill awareness. Use your woman’s intrinsic nature to the benefit of both of you. Don’t give her what she asks for, give her what she needs. Much of what she needs has already been discussed in Part 1—Romance and Frame, Part 2—Dynamism and Weakness and Part 3—Game and Shit Tests.
So let us discuss some final pieces to the puzzle of hypergamy. And to do so I have saved the best for last. For me the concepts of Imagination, Preselection and Dread are the most interesting. They will become important components of your Game and some of the most enjoyable and somewhat mischievous as well. To me they are the real key to your woman’s affections over the long term. These three ideas will also be the manifestation in your relationship of your quest to Become a Force of Nature. But being keenly aware of these concepts will make your efforts that much more productive. And the best part is that your woman will never be happier with you as a consequence.
You remember the magic from early on in your relationship right? There was a certain tension that pervaded your interactions together. And it was indeed a fantastic two way exchange of sensational energy. You were excited about discovering all the new unique qualities about her and you could feel the same excitement from her regarding you. It was a great feeling to be desired as such by a vibrant and glowing woman. This is unique time in a man’s life. Some might even say it doesn’t get any better.
But then a common aspect to western relationships eventually creeps in. And for those of you outside of the west, perhaps it’s simply human nature. The natural tendency is to tell your woman everything you are thinking as your relationship progresses; to share everything in your life with her, all of your thoughts and plans. She will even encourage this. The thinking is that there should be no secrets between you. And in some respects this is a good idea. Certainly you need to be honest with each other and manage your household as a team—as a team with you in the lead of course.
However, this does not mean your woman needs to know everything you are thinking every day. She also does not need to know exactly where you are headed in your pursuit of becoming the very best you can be. Leave some of what you are and what you are becoming to her imagination. Stirring a woman’s imagination as such is one of the keys to her hind brain’s cues for attraction and desire. It is my belief that it triggers a woman’s hypergamic interest in your potential as a man. The same interest she had when you first met. This is the magic we all long for when things get old.
Imagine it from her point of view as she sees you start to make significant improvements in your life. If you’ve been coasting for a while and then one day decide enough is enough and begin to tear after your immense potential, it’s going to get her attention. She will probably scoff at first, but then one day you will notice that she is beginning to take an interest. Your unmitigated willpower and sheer perseverance will eventually win the day. And when she does notice, you will simply keep quiet and keep on taking action. The key here is action, not words. Let her imagination go to work for the both of you and she will begin to get a small taste of your tremendous new ambition.
Let her hypergamic programming go to work for your benefit. Don’t spell it out for her; let her enjoy working it out for herself.
Make light of it when she finally begins to inquire. If she presses you as to what’s going on, just brush her newfound interest off with amused mastery. Let your actions and results speak for themselves. If you feel you need to share some of your plans with her, then do so as a matter of fact and just give her a small taste of where you are headed. Always stay ahead of what she knows about your new Trajectory. And as with many things in life, play the long game with your woman’s imagination. It may take her some time to become a true believer in you once again, but persevere no matter what. Put your Mission first, press ahead for your own benefit and bring her along for the ride.
Stoke that female imagination for all its worth and watch her simmer in feminine hypergamic delight.
Preselection and Dread
As you begin to see your woman’s imagination work its magic, compound your results through the awareness of Preselection and Dread. Do not do so explicitly, but become acutely aware of these female hind brain evolutionary traits as the both of you go about your lives and socialize together.
Women are extremely affected through social affirmation. For your woman to see with her own eyes that other women desire you is a powerful attraction cue—this is Preselection.
Almost nothing will make you more desirable to your woman than if she is a constant witness to other women being attracted to you. Imagine the wheels and gears of her female hypergamic mind turning as she notices other beautiful females noticing you as you carry yourself around with verve and swagger. Not only are you now more mysterious in her mind as you transform yourself, but you are also becoming very interesting to her girlfriends as well.
Keep in mind most of this will occur subconsciously; both for your woman and other women, both known and unknown to you. It’s not very likely you will receive rock star treatment, but there will be very subtle cues that will make their mark. Smiles and eye contact between you and other women will last a little longer than they used to. Your personal space will be encroached upon much more than in the past. And there will be a new level of energy in your social interactions with women.
Your lady will indeed pick up on these social cues and she will enjoy how they make her feel. Your attractiveness to other women will become an exciting social affirmation of her decision to pair up with you. Watch her and enjoy it as she carries herself with a new level of pride because of your hard earned personal development. There is indeed a unique level of satisfaction to see your woman excited about your attractiveness to other women. Perhaps this is part of our—men’s—evolutionary hind brain programming. Personally, I like this dynamic. I couldn’t have designed it better myself.
And then a new reality will begin to creep into her mind over time as her imagination combines with Preselection. The possibility will begin to take hold that she could eventually be replaced by another woman; another very attractive and perhaps younger woman—this is Dread.
Now you have her attention.
Competition Anxiety is coming into play. This is when the dynamic in your relationship will change for the better. She will now be on her toes and begin working hard to please you. And the best part is, she will never be happier or more alive.
Keep it subtle. After all, we are gentlemen. Our goal is to return the fire and energy to the relationship with our chosen woman. It is not to coarsely wield our newfound social market value for improper ends. Just put yourself out there and enjoy your interactions with other women. And then let your woman’s primitive mind begin to do its work. Stand tall, speak confidently and be bold. Soak it all in and enjoy yourself. Watch your woman and enjoy it as you catch her keeping an eye on you. Make yourself the prize and you will reap the rewards.
Embrace your woman’s hypergamy. Use it as fuel to become a better man. Realize that hypergamy will never rest and hypergamy doesn’t care. Don’t ever get too comfortable. Don’t ever think you’ve got it made. It is what it is. You might as well deal with it and you might as well enjoy it.
Consider your woman a little more primitive than both society and she would have you believe. Consider her untamed in some respects; a little wild if you will. This is good is it not? It turns what can be the cruelty of hypergamy into an interesting and exciting challenge and it will add a new element to your life as a man. It will both drive you to become better and add a certain flare to everyday life.
So have some fun stoking your woman’s imagination while you pursue your very best each day. Keep evolving and keep at least half of what you are thinking to yourself. Have some fun with it. Leave her hanging there, wantonly excited about your potential and development as man. If the adjective “wantonly” eventually applies to your woman in a faithful monogamous relationship, you’re living in the High Country my friend.
Then when you begin to sense that you’ve got her on her toes, take deliberate action to put the both of you in situations where she can see you interact with other people. Keep it classy and keep it clean, but leverage her Preselection and Dread when it comes to other women. If she reacts in jealousy and haste, reassure her of your faithfulness, but continue to put yourself out there. Let her mind stew over time and reprogram itself for the benefit of the both of you.
Be deliberate, be subtle and play the long game. Never assume your woman is the exception to the rule. After all, she is the product of countless centuries of evolutionary adaptation.
Accept your woman’s hypergamy as part of the natural order.
Embrace it and you will thrive together as it was intended.
All the best,