Self-Improvement for men is Self-Mastery. They are one and the same, both sides of the same coin. Each one will complement and require the other, for this is our inherent nature by design.
Each man is born with tremendous potential and uniquely engineered. You have a genetic makeup like no other human in history.
Surely then, you weren’t put together by happenstance. Become the master of yourself and become the master of your destiny.
As with free will, however, we are left to our own devices to make our way in this life.
Embrace the pursuit of Self-Mastery and become the very best you can be. Accept your greatest potential as your destiny. It is solely a matter of free will.
Make the decision and never look back. For a righteous decision as such will be in line with the natural order of things. You will be in congruence with the Creator.
Enjoy the wind at your back and the sun on your shoulders, for the glory of Becoming a Force of Nature will be forever be yours.
Since you will be eating with Precision and Purpose as well as developing an explosive manly physique, you might as well finish things up with some consideration about your appearance and comportment.
Keep it minimalist, but make sure to dress sharp at work, at home and at play.
Get rid of all your clothing that is subpar and worn. Never get caught again wearing old and tattered clothing; not even when resting at home after work or working at home on the weekends. The same of course, goes for work and recreation.
Then, take the time to upgrade your look with some sharp ensembles as they say. No need to go overboard here, but have a few nice things for every occasion.
Having a solid core of pants, shirts, footwear, outerwear, and athletic wear will make a big difference in your social standing at home, at work and at play. Have a variety of strong solid colors that you can mix and match. Finish things off nicely with some sharp footwear and a handsome jacket or two.
Keep up the personal grooming and cleanliness as well. Hair, beard, teeth and hands should be paid particular attention. Look sharp and smell good.
Send the message to all you encounter, even your woman at home, that you are a man on the upswing. Never take a day off.
Just as you have committed to never ending Self-Improvement, send an extrinsic reminder each day to yourself, to your woman and anyone else who crosses your path. Their reaction to you will mirror your new Life Trajectory and reinforce your efforts through social validation.
Next in line for application is making your physical posture a full time obsession.
Stand tall, move with surety and carry yourself with confidence and power. After all, as a man pursuing Self-Mastery as a matter of principle you are an elite human being. Move like it.
This will be a physical affirmation of your new path. Through the driving force of your Life Mission, action and movement you will create your new reality. Your physical posture and actions will combine to reprogram your subconscious mind. And what the mind believes you will become.
There are indeed very few men on this planet who have made the same level of personal commitment that you have. No need to be rich, famous or a professional athlete. A man of Self-Mastery is a rare breed concerned only with becoming the very best he can be.
No need here for the limelight. The deal you have made is between you and the Creator. This is a quiet pursuit for glory. But it is the best path there is. So stand tall, look people directly in the eye and carry yourself with energy and verve.
There are blue skies ahead for you, your momentum will build and you will handle each day’s challenges with composure, confidence and ease. Embody this mindset day in and day out and it will begin to project outward to all that you encounter.
This is the physical manifestation of a man Becoming a Force of a Nature. People will sense you are different and be better for their interaction with you. They will be inspired and engaged by the energy you project.
You will begin to realize this effect you have and it will reinforce your efforts.
Yes indeed, it is good to be in sync with the natural order of things.
Challenges and Conflict
Sure Self-Mastery is easy when all is smooth sailing. But how are you going to fare under duress?
The first step is to make the commitment to yourself that you will stick to your Life Mission.
This is the key. For then no matter the outcome, you have stayed true to what you believe. You will not always come out on top or with the end result you desire, but if you remain true to your core there is not much more that a man can ask from himself.
For those times when you drop the ball, chalk it up as part of life. Learn from it what you can and continue on your path. Recalibrate and get back to it. Realize that no one is without defeat and disappointment.
Even the greatest of world champions have felt the sting of defeat many times before the thrill of victory. And then they have been beaten again. You’ve seen it following your favorite team or athlete.
At least they had the courage to get out there and compete. I’m sure you admire them for that. And after many defeats and disappointments, they just kept on going. More admiration. This is the same for you. This is how you will attack life.
Maintain your Life Mission and you will maintain your dignity. See yourself as such, as a man with a high order of dignity pursuing his Life Mission. Do this no matter the challenge or conflict and you will succeed in your endeavors.
Take the Long View and outlast them all. If you’ve got your core intact after a setback or defeat, make the decision to be patient. You will not stop and you will never quit. The end game is to finish strong, to finish up in the High Country.
Surprise them all by getting back up and paring away. You’ve got your self-respect; you don’t need anyone else’s if it is not forthcoming. Take pride in the fact that you will continue on your path even after disappointment. For many a lesser man would not.
Combine the Long View with Outcome Independence. Sure you care about quality and success, but as long as your Life Mission is intact any single outcome is not paramount.
Decide that you will eventually get your way no matter the present circumstance. Any isolated challenge or conflict will not cut you down. You will thus maintain Outcome Independence and be on your merry way.
Once again, telling yourself that you will take the Long View and practice Outcome Independence as a man of Vision will make it so. Just the simple act of telling your mind what it needs to hear, will plant the seed.
These are concepts worth believing in. So you will enter them into your consciousness and they will eventually become part of your essence.
Your essence is your life force.
You will project that force on to the world and then the magic will begin to happen.
How does a man develop Self-Mastery when it comes to women? In the end the answer is that he develops Self-Mastery over himself.
Imagine for a moment you make a hardcore decision like you’ve never made before. A decision made with your life in the balance – you will attain Self-Mastery.
You will become the Force of Nature you were intended to be – period, end of discussion.
You don’t care what obstacles are put in your way or what anyone else thinks. There will be no more living a life of mediocrity and that’s the end of it.
All areas in your life targeted for Mastery are put on the table clear as day right in front of you. They are all written down and then reviewed every morning and every evening before sleep.
The next day you begin the chase. You go full throttle every day, driven like a madman. Commitment is an understatement; obsessed would be a better word.
Driven, committed, obsessed, but with a cool composure and long view that comes with a fierce confidence derived from the certainty of your decision.
One week passes. Then one month. You begin to develop momentum. You can feel it in your core. Then six months pass – one year, two years and three years.
You have completely transformed yourself by now. The change is jaw dropping, both physically and metaphysically. Your Life Trajectory is at a steep climb with no end in sight:
- You are fit, powerful and explosive.
- You are now speaking French fluently as a second language.
- Spartan minimalism has resulted in a complete overhaul of your home and lifestyle.
- A $50,000 emergency fund sits at the ready in your bank account – let’s call it f-you money.
- You have developed and implemented a plan to be financially independent in 10 years.
- Your first book is nearly complete and you have a rough outline for a couple more.
- Irrational self-confidence and personal magnetism ooze from your impressive physical presence.
- Your online blog recounting and teaching the above transformation has made you world famous and has led to a professional career as such.
You are now free to work from anywhere in the world and plan to start in Vancouver, British Columbia for 2 years before moving on to the next stay in paradise.
So let’s reevaluate the consideration of Self-Mastery and women at this point …
… Exactly, no further explanation needed.
No brainer here right?
When they are young you apply common sense parenting with an overwhelming amount of affection – simple and incredibly rewarding. Like nothing you’ve ever experienced.
You provide a nice home, good food, structure and security. Easy – worth every penny and every effort.
You love them up, teach them what you know, play with them, make them laugh and they reach out to hold your hand when you’re out and about – heaven on earth.
It is good to be the King.
Then one day your children grow and develop to the point of becoming sentient individuals.
They realize that ultimately they can make their own decisions separate from you as their parent. Ages vary, but eventually it happens.
Some will handle it with ease and consideration, some will not.
Peer groups become more central in their lives and to a certain extent your influence gets brushed aside.
This is all normal and expected behavior.
You want and expect your children to become strong, competent individuals. You want them to live their own lives; this is why we raise them.
Ultimately, the real test as a parent is at this point when you see them heading in the wrong direction. You once again apply common sense parenting, but to no avail. You take it to the wall and beyond in your efforts to get them back on track with no success.
They continue on in their chosen path no matter your efforts and you realize you cannot stop them.
How then does a man attain Self-Mastery with regard to his children at this point?
Speaking plainly, if a sentient and independent individual won’t listen to reason there is nothing you can do. It doesn’t matter how much you love them.
There are some things that Self-Mastery can’t solve by definition, it is out of your hands.
The only answer is to continue on with your Life Mission and be there for when they eventually need you.
They were raised in your home and the seeds of reason have been planted. They have your blood coursing through their veins.
Make sure that despite your disagreements or quarrels, their faith remains in the underlying righteous support of their parents. Even as adults, it will be important for them to know.
Work like hell to develop yourself and provide a fallback position for them if they should ever need it.
Redouble your efforts in the pursuit of your very best. Achieve astounding personal development.
Play the long game and take the long view. Develop and create options for yourself. Achieve financial independence and personal freedom. Live life up in the High Country.
And then when the time is right you will one day open the door, provide a hand up and rejoice like it is heaven on earth once again.
All the best,