Relentlessly pursue your very best as detailed here at Becoming a Force of Nature and you will once again stoke the fire in your woman. Don’t ever doubt it, those same embers are still there waiting for you to light up her life and pour it on.
Your new life Trajectory will render you golden in this area of healthy and natural interest. Golden because she is hard wired genetically from the ravages of survival through the ages to reproduce and seek out the best man to do so. You will once again become that man. Better, stronger, faster and wiser; full of life and bursting with energy and confidence.
You will return to the glory days of old where your potential was limitless and the world was yours for the taking.
This basic hard wired need to select the best possible man for herself is what still drives her desire and physical attraction to you.
As it turns out she chose you back in the day as a means for survival and propagation. You remember what I’m talking about here right? You remember the burning desire in her eyes. This was good.
Conveniently, you have happened upon a new philosophy for life that will bring those days of smoldering fire back to the fore. As you will see, the embers are indeed still aflame within her. You will just need to stoke them back to the roaring blaze they yearn to be. After all, it is only right with the natural order of things.
The key here is to take responsibility. There is to be no blame put on your woman. Fair or not, the onus is on you to demonstrate your viability. For this is the burden of being a man. And you will do so with an unyielding and upward Trajectory in all areas of your life.
After all, a man of substance and character takes full responsibility for his situation. Even if others and circumstance take him of course, he must eventually take the reins and regain control.
Desire is Not Negotiable
Action is the necessary solution, action in all areas of your life. There is no talking your way back into the fire. No reasoning or past glory will do the job. No, only concrete action that cuts a new path, a new and rising Trajectory in your life.
It does not matter how faithful, how loving and how honorable you have been. These are fine qualities that I’m sure she appreciates. They are also qualities that a man should pursue. But they are not sufficient in and of themselves to take you where you want to go.
You must catch her eye again and become a new man to be reckoned with – a man worthy of pursuit. It is only then that the magic will begin again. For it is your rising Trajectory that will meet the demand of her innate wiring.
Do not think you need to become something you are not to succeed here. We are talking in relative terms to a certain extent. Certainly there are some objective standards and goals you will want to meet, but they will be relative to your life and situation.
You will become the king of your castle by becoming the very best you can be.
You will be vibrant and full of life like a rushing current, leaving your old stagnant self in the past. Keep moving and make your upward Trajectory a never ending quest. Stay on point to your last day.
Take the Long View
You will take the long view in this area of interest just as you will in your personal development. Do not expect an overnight conversion. Just because you have made a decision does not mean your woman will automatically just light right up.
She will need to see that day in and day out that you are changing and changing for the better. You will be independently on the move, improving every day – torpedoes be dammed.
Your primary focus will be on yourself. This is not a selfish pursuit, but one which will reveal the best that you have to offer. These new offerings will be as a tribute to your God given potential, but will also greatly benefit those around you.
As you develop momentum and realize some gains you will begin to notice some longer gazes and a twinkle in her eye here and there. But then, she will slip back to her old habits and attitudes more often than not. Progress will be slow and intermittent with ups and downs, hot and cold days.
This is where you will remind yourself that as with all things now, you are in it for the long haul. You will take the long view and will not stop. You will outlast them all, even your woman.
Then as you rise in stature and gather critical mass, one day the long view will become the present. She will once again become excited about your achievements and further potential. She has to, it is only natural. You are now a man of energy, character, significance and value – a man of rising Trajectory.
You will know it and so will she.
Mission, Vision and Ambition
As part of your self-development you will dig deep, create and then set your Life Mission and Life Vision in armor. A driving ambition will fuel your daily pursuit. These will become the primary focus in your life. You will put your Life Mission and Life Vision first.
You will NOT put your woman first in your life. Your Life Mission will be consistent with the needs of your woman, but make no mistake – you will be the tip of the spear breaking new ground in YOUR agenda.
This is the best thing a man can do for his woman and children; develop himself to the highest potential and bring them along for the ride. Become the best you can be for your woman and set the highest example for excellence you can for your children.
Even if your children are out and on their own, you can still set the bar for never ending improvement. Surprise them and demonstrate you are strong, vibrant and ready to back them up at any time. You are a fortress and a failsafe should they ever need your help.
Your Mission and Vision provide the foundation for your Trajectory. They provide you with the purpose and goals that will drive you relentlessly to succeed. While others fade for lack of direction, you will have a laser like focus until your last day.
You will push off hard and life’s natural momentum will help keep the throttle down.
Nothing is more attractive to a woman than a man with direction and a truck load of self-confidence.
As you develop yourself on a daily basis, stand tall both literally and figuratively. Make posture an obsession and carry yourself with swagger and verve. Become physically fit and filled to the brim with energy and excitement.
A man with an attitude that bleeds with positivity and confidence is one who is contagious and addictive.
No matter her mood swings, always maintain and exude an abundance of confidence in your Mission and abilities. Do not be boastful, but move with surety and purpose. Become like a raging rapid, relentless, powerful and full of life.
Never stop, keep moving and watch as a rising tide lifts all boats. Make it your purpose to continue your upward Trajectory without fail. No amount of negative thinking or bad attitude will ever affect you again.
You will not stop and you will never quit. As a matter of principle this is how you will lead your life from now on.
So take action, take responsibility and take the long view.
Pursue your Life Mission with ridiculous levels of self-confidence.
Stoke the fire and enjoy the benefits.
All the best,