Unpopular Opinion Warning.
Wanna know what I see as a major contributor to the number of school shootings over the last two decades? The over regulation of young men.
Let me explain. I have LITERALLY been in an actual fist fight with about 20% of the men on my FB page (trust me, they know who they are). Yet, here we are all these years later, still friends.
We were given that outlet. A teacher would eventually break us up or a coach would run us till we puked, but we expressed our anger. We were allowed to settle conflicts the way men have settled them since the dawn of time. We may miss a recess, or stay an hour after school, but chances are we were back hanging out together in a week.
The cops didn’t arrest us. Our juvenile records weren’t tainted because we got in a little fist fight. We weren’t expelled, even though I did do a lot of time in ISS. That allows no man (whom I consider only one step above animal and one step below woman on the evolutionary ladder) the ability to channel his rage properly at the appropriate target.
It’s different today for boys and young men. They eat it. They eat the rage. They eat the hate. They become walking talking time bombs. So, when that rage finally does get expressed, it’s deadly and non specific with its channeled hate.
What could have been a couple of bloody noses and sharing a beer in a field a few days later, has suddenly destroyed lives and families.
Let boys be boys and men be men. We’re still territorial, confrontational, and have a fighting instinct. If we never allow that to be vented in small bursts during a lifetime, then we can’t be surprised when that pressure finally destroys its vessel and everything around it.
You can hate my opinion if you want to, but until you’ve been the eight year old on the playground wearing second hand shoes and with the knees patched in your “school jeans” being bullied, I don’t care what you think.
That was me.
I fought back.
I wasn’t made to carry my anger like a bomb vest for the next ten years just waiting for it to go off and hurt more people than deserved my wrath.
In the 103 mass school shootings between November 1983 and September 2018 only three perpetrators have been female.
If you don’t see the connection, you’re not looking hard enough.