All the peace and tranquility you could want is waiting for you. There will be no more worry and no more strife. Yes indeed, life will be easy for you on this planet one day …
… when you’re six feet under.
So if you want to live and you want to live well you had better Toughen Up and then Toughen Up Some More. There is no other choice. The time is going to pass anyway. You might as well get to work hardening yourself and sharpening your edge.
You will always need to get tougher; tougher and smarter. No sense leaving anything in the table. And no sense giving up any leverage.
Better to be tough and smart than just one or the other. You might as well pile it on give yourself the best chance to get it all done.
A tough guy without much in smarts might end up just spinning his wheels and never get very far at all. And a wise man without any toughness might not have the backbone necessary to finish the job.
Combine toughness and smarts and you’ll be a force to reckon with.
You don’t know what you don’t know. Keep this maxim at the fore of your thinking always. Adding knowledge, understanding and insight will make all of your efforts that much more effective. And thus, you’ll have more to give and be able to strike at your target that much harder—it will make you a tougher adversary.
Add some layers and thickness to your character by making it a priority to always be learning. You live in the best time in all of human history. Literally all of human knowledge is no further away than your fingertips. But then you know this because you are here reading this material at this very moment.
Perhaps though, it’s time to take it to the next level. Remove television as a daily habit. Limit your time in front of the screen. Limit your time in social networking and limit your alcohol. Open up your time outside of work to expanding your mind.
Read books, read blogs and listen to podcasts.
Study technology, acquire knowledge and learn from successful and insightful people. Make this a life long habit and it will provide you with more leverage and power than anything else you could do.
Technology and knowledge will sharpen your edge and learning how to think from the best minds in history will toughen you up. Combine both of these together and you’ll become twice the man; a man of leverage, power and toughness.
And then take your newfound knowledge and insights and combine them with Right Action. Apply what you learn. Get out there in the world and get some things done. The more you do, the more you will be able to do.
Create a positive feedback loop for yourself where you learn and apply and then learn and apply some more. Become a man of action who operates in the real world; a man who turns his thoughts and words into reality.
Fail your way forward if you have to. Better to be out there making mistakes and learning than letting life pass you by. Adjust and learn some more and you’ll be just fine.
Keep at it as a matter of principle. Tough it out and you will become like heat treated metal. You will get harder and harder and the cuts you make into each day will become cleaner and sharper.
Cutting away the fat, adding some muscle mass and developing some explosiveness will make for a cool parallel and help to reinforce your new steely countenance. It will pay tremendous dividends to sharpen both sides of the blade so you can cut both ways and become just a little bit dangerous.
There is nothing wrong with a strong physical presence and a little intimidation. Men will respect you for it and women will be attracted to it. This is simply the natural order.
Use your physical development as a man to toughen up. Set your workout schedule and stick to it. Alternate between resistance training and high intensity cardio work every other day. Barbell compound lifts are the best for weight training and consider sprinting or bag work for your HIT work.
Become the complete package. Carry some muscle mass and develop some power and the ability to go all out. No need to go overboard. The goal is to develop a solid frame with an abundance of functional strength. Stretch your capacity in these areas and you’ll have the endurance to work all day long at a level surpassing most.
By simply sticking to your workout schedule it will toughen you up. Because as we all know, half the time or more you won’t FEEL like doing the work. But you will ignore your feelings and your fatigue and do it anyway. Principle will overrule your weaknesses.
And with principle leading the way you’ll become much tougher. Becoming principled about your physical development will bleed over into every aspect of your being. Principle will rule over preference.
Each of us of sound mind and a little ambition know what it is each day that needs to accomplished. The difference in the long run is the small gap that is created by a man of principle versus a man of preference which compounds over time. It’s all the little decisions based on principle over preference that will add up to achieving personal greatness.
So make physical training part of your essence. Make it a matter of principle. Use your physical development as an exercise in character. Toughen up.
And while you’re at it you might as well get the relationship with your woman in proper order as well. After all, the polarity between the sexes is one of a man’s interests that make life worth living. There are indeed some worldly pursuits perfectly in line with the Creator’s natural order and this is one of them.
Take control and Toughen Up with regard to your woman. You can still remain equal partners. It’s just that now you will become more equal. You will reset the tone and put her on her toes in pursuit of you.
She will become the lucky one and you will become the prize.
Set the bar high for yourself and tear after it. Become resilient through Willing Acceptance. Harden yourself through self-denial. Develop your mind and physique relentlessly. Bear down and keep forging ahead no matter what. Put yourself first.
Let your woman see with her own eyes you are a force to be reckoned with; that you are a man of Action, Virtue and Excellence. Let her see that you have your own life and interests apart from her. And that you just won’t stop.
Beyond your tremendous personal development, you will learn to recognize and handle her shit tests.
The first step in this regard is recognition. When your woman takes an unwarranted shot at you, hold your gaze and tell yourself “this is a shit test.” Remaining stone faced will put her off balance and the phrase “this is a shit test” will ground you and put things in their proper perspective.
You will realize in the moment it is simply in a woman’s evolutionary nature to test her man’s worthiness, as annoying as it is. Your woman is no different than any other.
The second step is to Toughen Up and handle her shit tests as a man should. In my experience the best response is a muted one, followed by a quick turn of your attention and then moving on. Do not give her the satisfaction of affecting you. Say little or nothing and then move on to something more important.
That is of course, unless she crosses the line into total disrespect. If this is the case you will inform her that it is unacceptable and you will not put up with it; and then once again move on to something more important.
Repeat this process over and over. Keep your composure and maintain frame. Eventually she will figure it out. You’re a man whose weight of character simply won’t stand for it. She had better cut it out or there will be a heavy price to pay; a price she will want to avoid at all costs.
And then you’ll set the tone even more clearly with Outcome Independence.
Be direct and forthright in your affections, but become Outcome Independent. Let her know that you can take it or leave it. And that as a man of action and character you have no time for a woman who is without reciprocal interest. Never let her see you let down. Simply move on and go about your important business.
Make the decision as well that if she doesn’t eventually come around you will take the front door. There are many, many other women out there that will line up to be associated with a high value male such as yourself.
This, of course, would be the ultimate in Outcome Independence. Know this in your heart and it will change the dynamic.
But, unless your woman is a lost cause, you will never need to take it to this extreme.
As you develop yourself and toughen up over time, nature will take its course. She will see you as a stand out among men, she will see that other women are attracted to you and it will dawn on her one day that she did indeed choose well.
Probably the most important aspect to becoming tougher is to take the Long View.
You don’t need to be the best and toughest there is right out of the gate. Raise your intensity over time. Harden yourself a little bit more each day.
Never stop and never quit. Close the back door. Stick to your principles and be willing to take it all the way to the end.
No matter what the endeavor, if you decide in your core that you just won’t stop then you can’t fail. Make it a war of attrition. Resolve to at least remain the last man standing even if you’re not that good.
Make a decision like this and it will imbue you with confidence; and to a certain extent, peace of mind. You will become more resilient and have more endurance. You will Outlast Them All.
One way or another you will get your way and you will Overwhelm Your Circumstances. It may not come as quickly as you want or in the exact format you want, but let there be no doubt—eventually you will break down whatever is in front of you.
Remember this: the Creator rewards hardcore commitment. And if you go long enough and hard enough, eventually you will raise an eyebrow. Eventually you will begin to bend reality in your favor.
So Toughen Up and then Toughen Up Some More.
All the best,