You remember that fantastic feeling from early on, back in the day with your woman. When she would do all the little things she could do to please you. There was just something right and natural about it. Like this was the way things were meant to be.
You could see the appreciation in her eyes and sense the pride she had in you. The natural order was indeed in proper order. This was living up in the High Country as a man should do. Life was sweet.
Everything seems easier when you have a quality woman, highly interested in making your life better.
Unbridled energy and high levels of optimism rule the day. Power, success and happiness are yours to be had.
Yes indeed, the world was your oyster and you would conquer it all. And your woman would be there to support you every step of the way.
No matter how independent and how smart, don’t kid yourself, this was her expectation. This was indeed part of the magic. It is simply in her nature, even today.
If somewhere along the way you’ve lost this vaunted magic, or perhaps you sense things tailing off, then it’s time to make a hard stop and regain the proper focus. Life and family have a way of diluting a man’s essence over time; especially that part of him which will light a fire under his woman.
You wouldn’t be the first man to run out of steam and you won’t be the last. Work, responsibility and modern culture can lead a man astray from his true destiny—becoming the very best he can be.
The feminine imperative that is pervasive in western culture is indeed seductive in nature. Most men are more than willing to go along, they are secure in themselves and think very highly of their chosen mate. We men are romantic and loyal to a fault. And sometimes it’s our downfall.
Unfortunately, a woman’s evolutionary programming will eventually lead her to disappointment if her man eases off the gas and does not continue to develop himself. Good intentions and equality mean nothing as a man softens over time. Hypergamy just doesn’t care.
Do not listen to her words. Take note of her actions, or lack thereof. Swallow the Red Pill and open your eyes.
Don’t despair if you’ve run off course and essentially lost what you once had and do not waste any time in anguish. It’s going to take some effort, but it can all be regained and then some. But this time you will not be diverted from the natural order between a man and his woman.
Always remember, the best thing you can do for your loved ones and to justify your life is to add fuel to the Spark of Greatness that is your Soul and develop your God given potential to the fullest.
Your goal every day should be to Become the Force of Nature that is inherent in your destiny. It is your birthright, but can only be earned through an indomitable spirit.
You will acquire this indomitable spirit because you’ve been left with no choice. You’ve lived the alternative and it’s simply a no go. Enough is enough. You’re fed up and will now strike out in the proper direction.
You’ve learned your lesson and will now put yourself first—especially ahead of your woman.
This will confuse her in the beginning so expect to be shit tested. Ignore her and continue on with your pursuits. When necessary, offer a muted response and then be on your way. Let her see you taking action like never before. Use her resistance as fuel for the fire if necessary.
As you get serious and develop some momentum, the opposite of what you would expect will begin to happen. Eventually you will notice your woman taking a renewed interest; the same sweet dulcet interest like there used to be.
After a while you’ll start getting a few questions and some longer than expected stares. There will be some unexpected smiles and perhaps even some feminine preening. Use this as fuel as well and keep driving your agenda forward.
The key to your transformation is to set your standards high. Set them as you’d expect the Creator to do. Permeate all areas of your life. You don’t have to do it all at once, but pare away over time. Rome was not built in a day.
The best place for a fast start is with your diet, weight and physical conditioning. In six months you can be a new man. Not only will you have a renewed level of energy from a proper diet and exercise, but your physical transformation will also get your woman’s attention.
Get rid of your gut, add some muscle mass and carry yourself with vigor. Set the tone for the rest of your life. Harden yourself physically so that you can harden yourself mentally. Deny yourself and take comfort in the discomfort necessary to regain your youthful physical nature.
Trust me on this. You will never regret the effort it takes and you will indeed get the attention of your woman.
You will set the tone and set the tone hard.
As you level off in your physical endeavors, it will be time to start broadening your horizons. You know what you need to do. Be honest with yourself. Take a step back and again, set your standards high.
Have a look at it all. A man’s big three are his health, mind and finances. Now that your health and physique are in order it’s time to bear down on the other two primary areas.
Educate yourself. Never stop learning. Make this a permanent state of who you are. The potential and leverage in your mind is virtually limitless; both in your personal and professional life.
Once you begin to read every day it will become a healthy addiction. And the more you realize the more you don’t know, it will become an exciting adventure each day to learn and develop your mind.
Not only will you gain knowledge, but you will mature in your mindset as well. Self-mastery is the key to true success and as it happens, a very attractive quality in the sexual marketplace.
Because of this, your woman will take further note of your new layers. And this will be another dividend available for your benefit over time.
The last of the big three are your financials. This is just a fact of life. You will need to take control of your money.
The bottom line is to cash flow each month. In other words, have some cash left over to pay down debt or put into savings. Be a man with a plan. Most of us earn enough to become financially independent over our lifetimes. The key is to right size your lifestyle. Get off the Hedonic Treadmill and start taking action.
Read A 10 Year Plan for Financial Independence to get a basic framework.
And from there the rest is up to you.
Put yourself first and set your standards high; Creator high.
Never stop and never quit and then one day you will notice an interesting and repeated pattern of behavior.
Of her own volition and with pleasure and consideration … your woman will work to please you.
All the best,